Brave Lessons #8


This quote from Dalai Lama resonated with me this morning. In every circumstance we have choices, even those hard, hurtful, terrifying circumstances, we still get to choose how we react to them, what we focus on.

I just loved this quote and the message it conveys of letting our circumstances soften us and make us kinder.

There is a certain special type of bravery in being kind, especially to those who may have hurt us, or used us, or been cruel to us. It’s hard to be kind to people like that. But it’s right. And it’s brave.


So if you’re thinking to yourself that you aren’t a particularly brave person, just think of all the times you’ve been kind when other’s might not have been.

That’s being brave.

See, you’re braver than you think!

I encourage you this week to be kind and brave. I know I’m going to be working on it!


Brave Lessons #7


One of the things I’m committed to working on to be more “brave” this year is getting out of my comfort zone more frequently.

Ugh! It’s so hard!

But worth it. Yes, yes it is!

Something that definitely takes me far beyond the boundaries of my comfort zone is public speaking. I can do it, I just don’t like to do it. It freaks me out, causes great anxiety, and leaves me in a tailspin until the moment I step up to the podium and start speaking.

I thought this quote seemed so appropriate – bravery doesn’t mean you aren’t afraid or full of doubt or insecurities or worries, it just means what you are doing is more important than giving into those things.

Last week, I was supposed to speak at a luncheon. I wrote my speech, spent hours practicing it, had some fun little giveaways to give each attendee all ready.

I went through my usual rundown of anxiety, fear, doubts, worry, insecurities as I prepared for the event, but I realized I was looking forward to the luncheon, too. To meeting new people and sharing my books with them, and finding out more about them, as well.

Then it snowed, and snowed some more, and melted and made ankle-deep slush, then froze and snowed again. Oh, it was a mess. And the morning of the luncheon, the organizer called to say it was cancelled.

Normally relief would have flooded over me, but this time, I felt disappointment for something I realized I’d been looking forward to.

So maybe, just maybe, I’m inching forward in being brave.

Brave Lessons Week 6


With Valentine’s Day this week, my thoughts keep swirling around love.

I think this quote is right on the money. It takes bravery to fall in love – to admit you’re in love. Even saying “I love you” the first time to someone takes a good deal of courage.

When it comes to our emotions, bravery is required to share what’s in our hearts.  That applies, I think, to all our relationships.

I didn’t grow up in a house where people said “I love you” or randomly gave hugs. Then I met Captain Cavedweller. His family were huggers! I mean big, warm not-letting-you-go-after-two-seconds huggers! They said “I love you” to one another. And I quickly learned that I liked being among huggers. In fact, I became one.

I also learned to tell the people I care about that I love them. Not just show them or assume they knew, but to say it. And you know what? My family are huggers now, too, and I hear “I love you” often when I talk to them.

But it took being brave to initiate a change.

So whether you’re in the falling-in-love stage of life, the happily-married years, or still searching for your perfect someone, remember to be brave when it comes to matters of the heart.

Brave Lessons #5


I read this quote the other day and it got me thinking about “growing brave by reflection.”

My take on that is that we can look at experiences with a thoughtful eye and see how we could do better, make different choices (brave choices), and have an alternate result. We can be reflective on a decision we’re contemplating, too.  And it’s pretty darn brave to smile when trouble finds us or gain strength from making it through a challenge.

I think it takes a good bit of bravery to honestly evaluate our lives, our inner selves, and be willing to learn and change from what we discover – to grow brave by reflection.

And the rest of this quote is pretty awesome, too. When we follow what our hearts tell us to do, and our mind approves – there is a recipe for success!

Brave Lessons #4


Over the course of the weekend, I did something that was brave for me – that pushed me beyond the borders of my comfort zone. And when it was all said and done, I felt good about having done that thing (and somewhat relieved it was over!).

It got me thinking about being brave. What’s brave for me might not be brave for you. Likewise, what might be brave for you, might not be for someone else.

We can’t measure our moments of bravery by anyone else’s yardstick. We each, on our own, have to be our own kind of brave.

Don’t compare your brave to others. Don’t discount what you know in your heart is something brave for you today just because someone else might not see it that way.

Just be you and keep stepping into bravery, even if it is one tiny little baby step this week.

Brave Lessons #3


If any of you are like me and find your comfort zone to be… well, comfortable, it can be hard to stretch beyond it’s borders.

Not just hard – but terrifying, stressful, scary, unsettling (the list could go on and on!).

But it’s outside the borders of the comfort zone where incredible things, magical things, great, amazing dreaming-of-the-possibility things actually happen.

Stepping outside the comfort zone and into that magic isn’t easy. What it is, though, is brave.


I’m working on putting some plans in place that I hope will bring about some “great things” this year. But to do that, I’ve had to step way outside my comfort zone. It’s uncomfortable and a bit frightening, but it’s also exciting and hopeful.

I hope when you’re faced with the choice of staying in your comfort zone or stepping out of it into something wonderful, you’ll take that step. I’m cheering you on!

Brave Lessons #2


This is such an awesome quote and it spoke to my heart this week. I like the idea that we have a responsibility to live this one precious life as fully, bravely and beautifully as we can.

This past week, I started putting a few things in place that I hope will help me live a little more fully, bravely and beautifully this year. I know it’s not always going to be an easy thing to do, but I think it’s going to be worth it!

What about you? Is there something you’d like to change or do this year that would help you live life more fully, bravely or beautifully?